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Learning the hard way

Classroom teaching is organized learning where in words of many researchers and analysts decide what content will be taught and in what manner.
As a child everybody has had their times of despising classroom either for selective subject or like me, simply for all of them.

But 20 years past one realizes how essential indeed were those classroom sessions.
And that is cause of the natural phenomenon that one understands the importance of something in life when that goes away from you.

Have come too far from classrooms. And the most painful part in all of this is the fact that learning is not seized. Lot of things we are still suppose to learn in the daily course of action. But these lessons do not come from well structured course books illustrated by a teacher, it come to us the hard way.

Hours after any incidence you analyze and understand the triggering factors for the event and their effective impacts. And then you really introspect that what & how exactly one was supposed to do in that situation. And then the next time you just try hard to remember all the lessons.

How I wish there was a structured course book for this too. To know exactly what to do in a situation when there are given set of parameters in terms of people involved and their characteristics, triggering events, prevailing situation at your end, required impact and effective impact. I so wish there was a bunch of numbers to these parameters and a well researched and proven formula to find and answer using these ‘given parameters’.

May be that might be possible in future study of human psychology and its derivatives, but still no formula can cover the hidden parameters. These hidden parameters have a unique character to themselves and are revealed only when “the time is right”. And oh no.. that time is essentially not a right time for you!

But then those childhood lessons come into play. No not in their real form. But ycome into play as their ‘hidden parameters’ are revealed now!

Like ‘Honesty is the best policy, …for the one who are under you.’ ;
‘A friend in need is a friend in deed, …especially when he is working in a different company then you and you are frustrated.’ ;
‘Lalach buri bala hai (Greed is an evil), …only when you express it’

And many, many more.

Well summing it all up I can only thank my classroom teachers for all the forceful lessons they taught me, else deciphering the hidden parameters would have been a distant dream and hope for success a fiction!

Comments

Unknown said…
Awesome....But its more looking as an autobiography to me....!!!

:-)
Dr.Rakesh said…
by going through your article i came to know on thing that now you have grown up and has started to understand the things in a better way. really good educative article for those who are still gtiing their education from classroom teaching. keep it up.
Sakshi Mathur said…
thank you so much mama!!
Chhavi Chawla said…
this surely is a nice article.. bringing us back to our childhood lessons.. though i try to keep in mind most of them..

trust me sakshi.. they are the true foundation to build up a person..

nice thoughts and nicely expressed too !!!
Sakshi Mathur said…
thank you so much di.... :)
Sharad Saxena said…
I knw in what context n mood u wrote this post... i cud feel n understand each n every word of this post ... probably u wont believe me ..bt its true . I hv gone through these kind of situations... bt cudn't write anythng like this.
looks like a part of my life ...
it happens to everyone ... sooner or later ...
Sakshi Mathur said…
true sharad,, what i wrote is a general to all.. something which all of us go thru once we come out of the 'classroom sessions'.. and how we long to go back to those days.. :) funny it is!
ashishrijhwani said…
oye tell us something we all dont already know............!!! Gyaan mat de re... :)
Sakshi Mathur said…
mene gyan nahi diya hai!! I have expressed exactly what i felt at that time... alas something you will never understand!
ashishrijhwani said…
haan re... i said everyone feels d same... our expectations from u r much higher.. u can write about virtually everything so its better u share something no one never comes across. ...
Madhu Mathur said…
Dear,Though learning is a never ending process, whether it is related to your professional subject,or related to interpersonal relation or household chores,you always feel that you have missed the bus.You always feel it would have been better if you would have given more attention and time at the right time.But at the same time you are never too late.Jab jago tabhi savera hai.Still there is time to learn, may be in a harder way,but it is possible. Don't loose time now and learn it before it becomes impossible.
Best of luck.God bless you.
Sakshi Mathur said…
Love u mom thanks for the input!
Tans said…
a very deep thought over the facts of life as we grow up and very wellrelated to everyone's life. Keep it up.. :)
utkarsh gupta said…
sakshi... though i havn't even smelled the kind f shit u are rite nw living in and surviving through with...i already m dead scared to enter into a whole new one of my own.... i cant wish more to have a "pocket reference book" that would answer all my questions starting with 'when' , 'what' and 'why'.
but only if life was that benevolent...
but then i feel that learning by ur mistakes has its own thrill and fun. its very important to commit mistakes of ur own before claiming ur right on ne f ur success....

hope we dont loose the drive to learn...whatever way may it come though... hard or soft....

P.S. - a very usual topic thought and written in a smart way...
please try to write more on the tom & jerry wala article u mailed me....i feel it has a lot f potential...
utkarsh gupta said…
really liked what aunty has written....
Sakshi Mathur said…
@Gola:
first of all... i am no surprised to be smelling this hsit.. remember the promise we made when u first left fr mumbai.. "we will tell whenever we get our asses kicked (:P)"
So no big deal.. its fun learning, seriously!

secondly, yeah i have been meaning to structure my tom and jerry article... but this one will have lot of feelings connected for all.. so will do it soon but at the same time cautiously. but u will see it soon.. just keeo checking here..

thirdly, gola... Mothers always know the best!!! :)

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